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Subject: Angry White Girl to Black Men

(I got this from a mail sent to one of the yahoo groups I belong to)

Read on............So great to find this Black Prince
defending us like this...

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2
Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a
response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she
asked for (and more) !!!

This letter was written in response to an article in
Sister 2 Sister:

Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your
Black male readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a Black
male-good-looking,educated and loving. I just don't
understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings
amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they
were either too fat, too loud, too mean,too
argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or
carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was
constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine
and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are
so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't
they look at themselves and make some changes.

I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks
when we're out in public. I would like to hear from
some Black men about why we are so appealing and
coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife
of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie
Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte,
Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don
Cornelius,Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne,
Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on.

But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I
wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White
women because so many of your men want us.

Get your acts together and learn from us and we may
lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black
men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.


Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A
Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black
man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious
universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of
Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good
job at a major corporation and have recently purchased
a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks
of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white
people. I just want to set the record straight of why
black men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black
men dated white women was because they were considered
easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised
in the church. They were very strict
about when they lost their virginity and who they lost
it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers
would look for someone who would give it up
easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the
white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white
women because they are docile and easy to control. A
lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and
overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the
strength of our black women. We are afraid that our
woman will be more successful than us, make more money
than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.

Because of this fear, many black men look for a more
docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to
numerous black men and they continuously comment on
how easy it is to control and walk over their white

I just want to set the record straight. I want A
Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful
black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael
Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood,
Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L.
Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black

And, to flip the scrip,there are numerous white men,
in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly
desire black women over white women. Ted Danson,
Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be
misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white
that you are some type of goddess.

Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut
and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men
in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating
raw meat and beating each other over the head with

Read your history! It was the black woman that taught
you how to cook and season your food. It was the black
woman that taught you how to raise your children. It
was black women who were breastfeeding and raising
your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that
had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and
children beaten, killed, and
thrown in jail.

Black women were born with two strikes against them:
being black and being a woman. And, through all this,
Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance,
power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone
except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty
that captivates and draws me to them. It
is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes,
colors and shades that I love them.

Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about
black women.

Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their
integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles,
their willingness to stand for what they
believe in, and their determination to succeed and
reach their highest potential while enduring great
pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with
black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more
toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this
were not so, then why do you continuously go to
tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy
with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject
your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and
dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more

I think that your anger is really a result of you
wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman,
someone I can walk over and control, I would give you
a call.

But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman.
Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my
children. Someone who can be my best friend and
understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul
mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Black Royalty

Wow!! Doncha' just Love it!!! We must pass this on to
make the day for all of our loving, beautiful and
intelligent Black Queens AND the Kings who know how
wonderful we truly are!!!!

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